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Have you ever worked with, or have friends who just seem programmed to be at ease with themselves…but are drop-dead gorgeous at the same time?  Has it blown your mind to think how EFFORTLESS it is for some women to be themselves while attracting men left and right??
Are they just blessed with dumb luck, or are they onto something you’re not?
Let’s tackle a few basic traits that generate surefire attraction with the opposite sex:
# 1: Treat yourself like a prize, and he’ll follow suit
An irresistible woman knows that she’s worthy enough of a man’s time, affection, and most of all, RESPECT.  She never seeks out a man because she feels like a relationship will save her.
In fact, her life is so complete that she doesn’t need a guy to fix her or make her whole.  A sassy woman is perfectly fine being single for the moment because she knows that Mr. Right will come along in due time.
There isn’t any need to go into a panic or lower your standards just to make room for a guy who won’t treat you the way you should be.  More importantly, you don’t try attracting a man out of DESPERATION, because that isn’t exactly an endearing quality.
It’s absolutely essential to be a self-referenced woman who doesn’t seek a man out of social pressure.  She allows a man into her life because he makes her happy and adds to her personal growth.
Her relationship doesn’t define her life, but rather enriches it.  The problem with a lot of women is that they often date a man for the former reason and not the latter.
As a result, they’ll act needy and clingy because they’re deathly afraid of being alone, even if it means lowering their standards and putting up with any guy that comes along. 
Acting out of FEAR is never the basis for a healthy, long-term relationship.
Simply put, self-respect is done by placing value on yourself, and that in turn will prompt a quality man to treat you in the same manner.  Otherwise, an attractive woman has no problems showing him the door and moving on with her life.
# 2: Just say “NO” to mind games
The folly of manipulating a guy is that whatever happiness you’ll get out of toying with his mind will be SHORT-LIVED.  Once you’ve dealt him your best cards and he’s given up chasing after you, then there won’t be much reason to stick around.
So don’t bother adhering to a bunch of stupid rules.  There’s plenty of harmful advice floating out there which are usually created out of specific experiences that don’t apply to everyone.  You might hear that you should NEVER kiss on a first date, or that you must go to bed with him on the third one.
Please, these so-called rules are made by bitter and jaded people who want to protect themselves from getting burned again.  Following these will only result in game-playing, and that is just another word for “manipulation”.
As I’ve just said, deception has no place in a healthy relationship, and anything based on a lie is bound to crumble in the future.  That’s why it’s more important to be a balanced woman instead.  That means no playing “hard to get”, nor should you present him with absolutely no challenge at all. 
An attractive woman is who she is partly because she knows how to strike the middle ground: she doesn’t mess with a man’s head, but neither is she easily won over.
# 3: Get your head out of the clouds
You know, a lot of relationship problems are caused by having unrealistic standards.  When you get caught up in fantasizing about IMPOSSIBLE stereotypes, you’re keeping quality men out of your life.
That’s because NONE of them will be able to measure up to the ideal (read: ridiculously perfect) man living inside that fantasy world of yours!  Seriously, you should learn to temper your expectations with a sense of practicality.
In a parallel universe, all of the men you’ll meet have big arms, ripped abs, stunning chiseled looks, and inexhaustible wealth.  You might think that meeting ALL of those qualities are the ticket to a great relationship, but it’s so much more than that.
Ask yourself: will I be able to have a happy relationship if my man didn’t have (insert trait here)?  If so, then you can either make your standards more realistic or cross out that specific item completely.  If not, then keep it on your list and move on to your other standards.
Pare down your list and stick to the essentials.  In twenty years from now, will a flawless physique still be important, as opposed to emotional maturity, faithfulness, or honesty?  Think about that for a while.
You’re not living in a movie here – this is the real world you’re in.  Don’t wait around for a valiant knight to come barging in and rescue you from the drudge of your daily life. 
You’ll have to do that for yourself.  That takes us to the next irresistible trait, which is to…
#4:  Derive fulfillment and satisfaction from your life, not a relationship
While a sassy woman will make room for a worthy man in her life, she’s not about to turn her schedule upside-down just to accommodate his preferences.  She has the guts to go on living the way she was before they met.
It’s very important not to lose focus on the other aspects of your life when you get into a relationship.  As we’ve discussed, your life should revolve around what works best for YOU.
Always have your priorities sorted and don’t develop the habit of dropping everything else just for him.  While it’s ok to occasionally move things around for your guy, always leave time for yourself as well adequate room for personal growth.
That’s the problem with a lot of women – once a guy steps into the picture, everything goes haywire.  They forget their family and friends, slack off at work and basically drop off the face of the Earth.
That’s not a healthy way to live your life.  Rather, a relationship should enhance the quality of your life and INSPIRE you to do even better.
Going back to what I mentioned before, whether or not you have a boyfriend at the moment shouldn’t affect the big picture.  Balance your priorities by keeping him in the loop but not to the point where he’s already disrupting your daily existence.
Referring again to our middle-ground metaphor, learn to go out of your way when appropriate but at the same time, avoid appearing too scarce.  Don’t hide from him on purpose just to see how far he’ll chase after you.
You’re better off getting a dog if you’re into that sort of thing.  Remember what I told you about playing games!
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When Do You Know If He's Right?

How many dates does it take to make a decision about whether or not you want to pursue a relationship?

I've always been curious about this aspect of dating, because very few women have comparable experiences. With some dates, the knowledge is immediate and instinctual. With other dates, months may pass before the endearing nature of his laugh, his smile, his character becomes apparent.

I know that I am a slow warmer. I am wary when I meet a man for the first time. I am dubious of his intentions. I read innuendo where none was intended. It takes me time to let down my guard.

It's not because I'm naturally a suspicious person. It's because, in the realm of relationships, I've been burned enough by bad apples.

I'm representative of most women my age. By one's thirties, one has experienced enough bad relationships to associate the dualities of pain and pleasure with a man. One is never sure how much to trust.

But this isn't natural.

Twenty years ago, I loved all boys. I played with them innocently and full-heartedly. Boys were my playmates, my cohorts in crime, and my teammates for games. I could think no evil of boys. Their strange preferences for dirt, body odor, cars, and constrictive underpants were simply idiosyncrasies of fascinating playmates.

As I grew older, I realized that boys could no longer be trusted to play innocently with me. My first two male friends in college were cool--a jazz musician and an Apple Mac gamer--until I realized they "liked" me. I quickly dissolved the friendships. I wanted the innocent companionship and friendship of my childhood male schoolmates. I didn't realize that maturing would erase that possibility completely.

When do we women lose our innocence with men? And can we ever regain it?

In my line of work, one great danger is to take relationships and attraction too seriously. Many women feel that the potential of the man they are seeing is a matter of life or death. Instead of having fun playing with him (like a child with a favorite playmate), they evaluate his potential as a father. They situate any future relationship squarely in the realm of adulthood. The rest of their lives is at stake.

My flatmate tells me that the definition of compatibility as a couple is when his or her issues are compatible with your issues.

That's a pretty adult view of the situation.

I have a different view. I believe that you know a man is compatible with you if he likes to play the same "games" you like to play. Maybe you like to tease in a certain way; maybe there's a certain game in bed that you like to play. Maybe you like to go out; maybe you like to mountain bike. If he likes to enjoy himself and have fun and laugh in the same ways as you, you've found a potential soulmate.

We all knew back in childhood that there were some children that we could play with for ages, and there were others who liked games that didn't interest us. It's the same with men and women.

Yet in our attempt to find a suitable man, we often forget to look for one that we have fun with. One that makes the kinds of jokes we find funny (and laughs at our jokes). One that is up for any crazy scheme we propose. One that will make our life happy and light-hearted, not just important and successful.

Life is serious and dry enough. We don't need relationships to replicate those patterns.

Relationships should be a haven from life's dry seriousness. You should be able to feel like a child with your partner, unembarrassed at the silliest of games. Together, you will be responsible for forming a life, raising children, making a home ... but all this will only be enjoyable if you can laugh together.

I have been out on dates with many successful, intense, highly attractive men. I admire them, appreciate them, and learn much from conversations with them. These are the men who will shape the world. No woman can fail to respond to their power.

But as for myself ... in my little, humble world ... I envision my ideal future as one in which there is always laughter, in which I can return to childhood with my spouse and play those games that I didn't get to play enough before I grew "old." I want us to be able to chase one another around the room, have pillow fights, and wrestle. I want us to tease one another, share silly jokes, and dissolve the seriousness of a working day with the magical spell of humor.

So, I suppose, the answer to my question is that it takes exactly the number of dates you need to decide whether you've found a companion you can play with. Some kids find a game they can play with each other right off the bat. Other kids end up trying lopsided games that one but not the other likes until they either find a game they like in common or give up.

Trust your child-heart's instinct. Ask yourself ... if you were a kid, would you play with this guy? Or would he be one of those kids who tries to control the game, or change the rules, or cheat?

A partner who makes life more fun is a treasure indeed,

All the best in life and love,

Amy Waterman
Host of "How to Be Irresistible to Men"
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About the author:

Amy Waterman is a professional writer specializing in attraction, dating, and relationships. She has extensive experience in helping women find love with her insightful and powerful secrets into attracting love and making relationships work. She is currently the host of the latest edition of "How To Be Irresistible To Men," which is part of the 000Relationships Network.

Her innovative program is a powerful instant-access multimedia course with a comprehensive supporting workbook. Additionally, members receive a number of bonus e-books on topics ranging from overcoming shyness to kissing, a 160-minute online video library, secrets of self-hypnosis, their very own personal email consultation, and much, much more! The "How To Be Irresistible To Men" Premium Course offers all women – single or not - a dynamic and comprehensive toolkit to attract love into their lives and establish strong and supportive relationships.

You can learn more about how to attract the man of your dreams and get the relationship you always wanted at:

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THE SIGNS OF A CHEATING SPOUSE - INFIDELITY IN MARRIAGE

Infidelity In Marriage - Cheating Spouses - Communication Breakdown

It happens to the best of us. Communication is such a fickle thing, and the lines of communication can become blurred every so often, especially when feelings are involved. Even those who think that they are immune to the confusion of conflict can find themselves drawn into a communication breakdown when they least expect it, and chaos ensues.
This happened to me on the weekend, and until to be quite honest, it took me by surprise. Even those of us who are better equipped than many others are not immune. My spouse told me something that really hurt my feelings, and I lashed back in defense. It was a silly argument, over something as simple as a misplaced bottle of aftershave. But to me, it represented something much deeper, that had been simmering away for a couple of weeks. I get frustrated at having to search for something when it is not where I expect it to be. Worse still when my partner has shifted it and I don’t know the first place to begin searching.

“Marriage And Infidelity – The Signs The Marriage Is Over”

What would you do if you came home from work one day and your spouse, the love of your life, your significant other, tells you “ I’m no longer in love with you anymore and I want a divorce. WOW…. you didn’t see that one coming, did you? Well this scenario happens more often than you may think. I mean, considering that the divorce rate in this country is at a whopping 50% and to hear some people talk, marriage is a dying institution. Do not believe that because it is not.

"Tips To Add Spice And Keep The Love In Your Marriage!"

We’ve heard the term “two old marrieds” before. Most of us “younger marrieds” harbor dreams of getting to that point. Some of us find it unappealing and unexciting. After all, what would you always prefer? A marriage as comfy as an old sock or the one hyped up in romantic novels and comedies?
Interestingly, it does take years of passion, love and intimacy to get to the point where a couple is so comfortable with each other that they finish each other’s sentences and depend on each other. Want to know a secret? Studies say that couples like these have an even better sex life in their marital futures than the ones with all the passion at the start then burn out later on. 
Why? Because these savvy couples don’t let up on keeping the intimacy, passion and spice in their marriages. They’ve built it up through the years to what we can call as a marriage “art form”.
How can you learn these spicy tips to keep the love in your marriage? Here’s some of them!
1. Prioritize each other.

"Will You Handle Infidelity When It Is You Who Cheated"

The day you started to move away from your marriage. Start cheating on your spouse and had that extra marital affair.Cleaning up the aftermath is never simple.  Just think for a moment.....You will need to face the possible explosive reaction of your spouse, also you will need to handle your own fragile feelings.  Nothing is going to be easy in how you handle your spouse's feelings (and rightfully so), and in order for you to handle the situation better, you should think about how YOU feel about your marriage also. You will need to own up to your behavior, be remorseful that you indulged in the behavior of infidelity. But also keep in mind, if your feelings have changed and you find yourself in love with someone else, NOW may be the time to consider ending the marriage as graceful and compassionate as possible.
OK are you able to admit your infidelity and try to work on your marriage?  If you are not sincerely in love with your husband or wife maybe a greater change awaits you.  But going outside the marriage doesn't mean that you really want to put an end to the relationship.  The one thing to ask yourself is; if you had a crystal ball and you could see into the future and see all the hurt and pain caused, would you really want to do it again?  Don't worry about the reasons why you had the affair.  That is done and is in the past, you cannot go back and change what has already been done.